her own children that will come to be some day, but as a small
person, I'd lie in bed, stare at the ceiling and dream of the life ahead
of me, of the lives for which I'd be responsible. When I was growing
up, I had an ambitious goal of having six children some day. Once I
was into my twenties, I thought four or five would be a good round
number. Now, I find myself talking my husband into having just a third
and not so secretly hoping that the next pregnancy (some day) might
be twins so that I can sneak in the fourth.
But as my mother has told me many times, God is the Lord of my family,
and He knows who my children are supposed to be, when they are to
come, and the number of them that there is to be. I now rest in that knowledge,
God is in control. For now, my two munchkins have me pretty busy. Not only
are they in busy phases of their lives (at 3&1/2 and 20 months), but they are also
very busy children.
Avalon Rose is my 3 and a half year old girl. One must forget about the "half"
part of her age. She is extremely intelligent (not that I'm biased or anything)
and has been debating with me since she was two. Never one to blindly obey,
she must understand why you want her to do a certain thing and feels the need
to be in agreement with you before she does it. When she does something
wrong, it's hard for her to admit what she's done was wrong. Instead, she
spouts out a logical explanation of why she had to do what she had to do and
why I, the parent, am wrong. Her capability of deduction and reason has been
astounding since she was a toddler. If all this wasn't enough of a challenge,
she has started the sassy talkback. I didn't think I'd have to deal with that until
she was at least eight. I know that these personality traits in her will be a huge
advantage when she is older. She'll stand up for herself, be a strong woman
of God, uncompromising in her beliefs and morals. This is what I'm praying for.
Beyond her strong will, she has a charismatic personality and a creative
imagination. I wrote in a past post that she is the one who blamed a void
of earwax on a q-tip on a mysterious monster who had "licked it out" of her
ear already. She has "pretend friends" who occasionally grace our house
as Backyardigan characters. Once she told me at the dinner table that her
pretend friend Pablo needed some food too. I told her that since he was
a pretend friend, he could eat pretend food. This seemed perfectly logical
to her and didn't initiate her effective debating skills. Avalon also has
super human hearing. You can be having a hushed conversation in the
car while she is otherwise occupied in the back seat, only to have her
ask you later about an aspect of your conversation that had been hushed
for a reason. My husband and I have been burned this way more than
a few times.
James David is my bulldozer toddler, completely unstoppable. When
he sets his mind on doing something, watch out, because nothing will
stand in his way. I remember looking into his eyes when he was six
months old and just learning to crawl. There was a drive and determ-
ination visibly present in his gaze that startled me. How could such a
young baby be so intense about accomplishing a goal? Since that day,
I have seen that determination help him do pull-ups and climb
bookshelves at only eight months, kick a soccer ball within only
two days of learning to walk (the week before his first birthday),
and squirm out of his highchair straps and stand up on the seat
at about 15 months. He is still in the phase of not knowing fear
or having a sense of danger. To say that he keeps me on my
toes, is an understatement.
Along with all his advanced gross motor skills, he also has a strong
vivacious personality with a strong will that rivals Avalon's. For months,
we battled for control at dinner time, just for control's sake. Thankfully,
he is finally cooperating more at our evening meal, but it was touch
and go there for a while. He started having tantrums a few months
ago as well and over the littlest things, like not being able to play
with a ball in the play yard when picking his big sister up from
preschool. So there I'd go holding to my side the child who was
kicking his legs, whipping his arms around furiously, and shrieking
as though having a knife stuck in him somewhere, through the halls
with other mother's eyeing me as I passed. I hoped they were thinking
I'm so glad that my child isn't doing that today verses What has that
woman done to her poor child. He still has an occasional tantrum,
but they have lessened in severity, duration, and frequency. Thank
you, God. My prayer for James is that God directs his energy and
drive into what God has prepared for him.
Both my children are affectionate, sympathetic, loving, kind hearted,
adventurous, curious, spirited, beautiful and full of endless energy.
I am so blessed to have them in my life and so thankful to God
for entrusting me with their upbringing and care. God certainly
answered my prayer in bringing these wondrous children to me, and
and am certain He will answer my prayers in regards to their futures.
"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for
welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope."
Jeremiah 29:11, ESV (English Standard Version)
"Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old
he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6, ESV